Where We Make Mistakes: By Joe Ogbechie
(Excerpt from his book, Thought: The Power Within)
The truth is that some of us have adapted our lives to a subdued structure – in acceptance of swimming downstream with the tide because it is effortless. Some of us have been taught to wait for a poke from some invisible fingers –so I ask what if the prod does not come, what if that invisible hand comes while we are asleep or when we are not ready.
Suppose the person we are waiting for to rescue us does not show up? Like a determined folk, you have to want to take a position in your life; you have to feel that it is necessary to think out aspirations, to figure out how to persistently succeed even with initial failures – it is not easy and you should know that.
You have chosen the road most traveled because the path is clear – there are no thorns, no fears of any danger and no difficulties. After all, when you are challenged, you have databases and encyclopedias from where you pull up experiences of others – you do not need to worry much nor prepare much, least pay attention to details because it has all been worked out for you. To tell you what you already know is at best redundant, but at the least it re-enforces the neglected subtleties.
Yes, you can get away with it for a while, and guess what! That is being a part of the herd and your individuality is morphed, and the description of you becomes generalized, you lose control of your personal initiative, personal responsibilities and ultimately, you become unaccountable for your actions, and that is not how the creator intended.
The laws of nature defines that you should be the leader if you make the effort that is needed, not just to get you over the hump but to sustain your flights. You have to put in the necessary work and beat down all fears and distractions –all the “IFs” that will support your excuses.
Success needs thinking, and it needs planning before it is earned. We have learned that chance plays a big role as well in what you can become and your thoughts maintains that definition you have come to believe – that you are not lucky enough to get the good
stuff that is out there. You will rather wait for the good stuff to come to you by happenstance. The fact is that if you have convinced yourself that you are good where you are, the honesty inherent in that means an absence of any plans for growth. After all, if it is not broken, why fix it.
I have had people use the common saying that “If it is meant to be it will be,” Hello! A ship in the harbor is very safe, but a ship is not made for the harbors, so get out there, change your thoughts and grow. You are better than instinctive animals. Get this, the creative laws made it possible that you can. You should solve problems, you should take chances, and you will fail, but you have to go back and patiently re-evaluate the process.
All advantages that the creator intended has not all been taken; and I disagree with the saying that an early bird gets the most worms.
There are worms for the early bird, for the midday bird and the late bird.
All birds just have to get up, get out and get their worms because it has not all been taken. REMEMBER that the world is not fully engaged and it is waiting for your input. Providence did not forget to attach to you the tools that are needed to resolve issues that life demands; all that it takes to live a life that is filled with growth came with you and awaits for you to discover. DO NOT forget you have the right seedlings that will bring you good fruits in abundance, and you are standing on the right soil, and you are in the right climate, in your right season.
Getting there is an issue, being guided is another, but moving on is your choice. I have come to realize that small chairs made for us in kindergarten were simply confining and restrictive. Toddlers grow, and most times faster than expected. We pay less attention to the trajectory of their growth, but we should and make it a point to build better and bigger chairs because toddlers grow.
You were told that you should not worry about what you will eat – what is needed of you is that you acquire a hands-free attitude, and somehow have enough, much more, so that you can reach out to those in need. Sounds good, but I worry about this nagging question: How do you fulfill that purpose. You are, in context, part of the needy; you refused to envision a genuine purpose in your heart, and dismissed all appropriate goals that would lead to its accomplishment?
I find that the differences between success and failure are the directions of our thoughts. Many do not get to fulfill destinies simply because they wait for it to come or they blame circumstances surrounding the earth.
Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal – it comes when you stop defining yourself by the circumstances that you are in. IT all takes thought.
Joe Ogbechie currently lives in Bowie, Maryland; a suburb of DC. He grew up in Onicha Ugbo, Delta State Nigeria. He has an MBA with concentration in Project
Management. He makes a living as an Information System Specialist at George Washington University in D.C. His passion however is writing – mostly drawn to the individual, societal behavior and reasoning philosophies. Joe has written some articles on his blogpost “thereciprocist.blogspot.com”, also on Facebook and LinkedIn. He also has articles picked up and published in Nigerian Punch Newspaper and the latest can be found at https://goo.gl/gVT6iN.